One of the most important lessons we can learn in life is to stop arguing with things we cannot change. Being in the resistance of something that has already happened keeps us stuck in anger, resentment, upset and distress. When we find ourselves dwelling upon how this “should not have happened” … or … how bad things “always happen to me” – we are grounding ourselves in the muck.
The best question we can ask ourselves is this: “How am I going to live a great life, anyway?”
Our job is not to change the past. That is impossible. We cannot alter what has already happened. Our power lies in deciding how we are going to respond to the challenges, adversities, trials and tribulations that land upon our paths. We all get to decide HOW we will respond and WHAT we are going to do to make the best of the situation.
When we decide to stop arguing with the reality of things, we can get busy moving forward beyond them. All any of us need to do is to take the next best step. And, every step we take moves us toward something. If we keep looking back at what already transpired, we don’t move forward.
Once again, the most important and transformative question we can ever ask ourselves is “How am I going to live a great life anyway?” And then, take one teensy step in that direction. Or, you can continue lamenting and ruminating endlessly about what you wish hadn’t happened or how unfair it was or how unhappy you are about it. The choice is yours. You have the power to decide.
N.B. I am not suggesting that we deny, dismiss, disregard, suppress or repress grief and loss. We absolutely must honor our emotions and must make necessary time to process events and mourn circumstances. I am simply inviting us not to get stuck in that space. Acceptance of what we can’t change allows us to process our grief and acknowledge our losses and ultimately fosters the opportunity for us create our best lives … despite the things we wish hadn’t happened.
If you can’t change or undue it, how are you going to make the best of it? How are you going to live a great life anyway? Our lives change in the best of ways when we shape our days from that perspective.
With warmest intentions, Karen
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